Be a Role Model . Young children are like sponges.

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Be a Role Model . Young children are like sponges.

As parents we are our children’s first role model. We have to pay close attention to what we say and do around our children and think about what kind of example we are making. If we want our children to listen to us we have to show we can listen to them. If we want them to respect us we must also show them respect. If we want them to openly communicate with us we must communicate openly with them. It is not fair to expect children to do as we say and not what we do. We are their example!!

Phrase all the consequences you give your children in a POSITIVE tense rather than a NEGATIVE one.

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Phrase all the consequences you give your children in a POSITIVE tense rather than a NEGATIVE one.

Use the word “When” instead of “If”. For example, “When you have eaten your dinner, you can have some of that yummy desert” instead of
“If you don’t eat your dinner you can’t have any of that yummy desert” When you are consistent with terming everything in a positive way your children will learn the consequence of reward for effort rather than punishment for non effort.

The Matthew Smith story

SUPPORTING CHALLENGING CHILDREN You may have heard me mention this story in my webinar or read it in my Hidden Dangers book. I am posting this just for you to be more educated, not to judge anyone!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NfzkDM2hF-0&NR=1

The Matthew Smith Story

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Hi everyone,
if you have been following the tips of week you should now have read 13 of them...time flies. It doesn't seem like 13 weeks since I started. I hope you are getting value from them.
Most won't know this but I am currently writing my 4th book which will expand on the Revolting Child book but have more on parenting.

I would like to ask anyone that has benefited either from the tips of the week or from reading my 'Revolting Child' book to let me know as I will be wanting some testimonies for my new book.
I would love to hear how any of this information has helped you in your parenting with any specific or general examples. Any testimonies that re printed in my new book will be in the first to receive a complimentary, signed copy so please let me know if you would like to share your own success story.
Thanks, Cheers, Lillian

The MORE we give to our children the MORE we will get back.

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The MORE we give to our children the MORE we will get back.

We’ve all heard of the saying, “What we give out, we get back”. This is never truer than with our relationship with our children.
The more love we give, the more respect we show, the more understanding we are, the more we accept , the more tolerance we show, the more cooperation we gain, the more trust we have, the more harmonious we are, the more belief we have.......
the more this will be given to us in return.
The same goes for the opposite emotions...the more anger, the more distrust, the more control, the more lack of respect.............
So what is it that you want?

Listen respectfully to your child’s ideas and feelings.

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Listen respectfully to your child’s ideas and feelings.
Your child, regardless of their age will have many worthwhile and valid ideas to contribute and they will also have feelings (that we may not always be in alignment with). It is important that we respect those ideas and feelings and allow them to feel comfortable expressing them. If we do not openly and respectfully listen to our children they will NOT want to share with us and will find others to express their feelings to.*


* If we deeply disagree with the ideas or feelings the child has we can let them know how we feel. We must still validate their ideas and feelings however and not make them feel like they are not worthy of their own thoughts. A discussion to express your ideas and feelings could be good as long as it is not used to say “It’s my way or the highway”. If expressed carefully the child may see it respectfully from your perspective as well. This encourages MUTUAL respect if you have differences.
Imagine if a good friend or colleague expressed an idea or feeling to you. Would you listen and respect their thoughts even if you didn’t agree and perhaps be diplomatic about expressing your thoughts if they were very different. Or would you not validate them, ignore them or tell them that’s wrong, no good or not viable.
The same respect should be given to your children 